little boy riding his bike through woodland trail

You Might Get Hit By A Car

 

Riding on his bike down the footpath to the park my 3-year-old son calls out to his friends who are ahead of him, “Stop at the corner”

Naw how cute I think to myself smiling. He’s looking out for his friends and knows that it’s a safety thing, stopping at the corner. Don’t want to get hit by any cars now!

As I thought more about this proud mumma moment, I realised that just like a parrot, my son was mimicking me.

He had heard me say a million times before, as we had ventured to the park “Stop at the corner” and had now taken it on as his own.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad he’s listened to me and knows the meaning of it but what I realized is this is thing us humans do, which often we don’t break or question.

We take on things other people tell us, believing that they are true and never really questioning what we know.

The first 7 years of our life, known as the imprint years are both crucial and amazing.

Children’s brains are like sponges. Taking in everything they see, feel, hear and touch. Learning about the world around them. What their place is, how to fit in, that 2 plus 2 equal 4.

A child will create more neural pathways in the brain in the first 5 years of being alive than at any other time.

Simply amazing!!

So as a kid we learn all these new things and then we operate on auto-pilot through the rest of our lives.

Thinking what we do, believing it to be true, never questioning what we know.

Majority of what we believe and think was given to us by someone else. Usually handed down to us by our parents or close family. Then as we get older we are given beliefs and perceptions by our peers.

It’s not even ours in the first place!!

Perhaps you were the fat kid, the smart kid, the sporty kid or the naughty kid at school.

This is what you got told you were and you took it on to be true.

Does what you think now, as an adult serve you well? Or does it hinder you?

Maybe you think you are not smart enough to start your own business, or become the CEO of the company your work for.

Ask yourself, where does this thought or belief come from? Is it really yours or was it given to you?

The best way to know is to feel it in your body.

When you think of the belief does your body feel heavy or light?

Heavy means it’s a lie, light means it’s the truth for you.

So I invite you to really look at all the beliefs you have about yourself and the world and question if they are serving you or holding you back. Do they serve you or do they suffocate you?

Where did they come from? Once you have worked that out, you can energetically and graciously hand them back to their rightful owner.

Keep the ones that serve you, flip the ones that don’t into something that will.

It takes practice, there’re years and years of crappy thoughts and beliefs to unlearn.

Be kind to yourself while you do this. Catch yourself in the moment of the thought and if it makes you feel heavy, you know it’s a little stinker that gets to be flipped into something sweet and light.

You’re a bit older now, you don’t always need to “Stop at the corner” anymore.

 

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Success Lessons From My Mum

In a few weeks, it will be 6 years since my mum passed away.  Any of you who have lost your mum or a loved one will know, that you miss them everyday. I certainly miss my mum everyday.

She is still with me and the funny thing is, over the last few years I have started to listen to her advice.
Crazy I know but isn’t that life really? We don’t listen to our parents when we are young and it’s only as we get older that we start to realise that they weren’t talking as much crap as we initially thought!!

Mum has been repeating her sage advice in my head over the years and I think I’m finally starting to pay attention.

One piece of that advice was living life by what she called the 5 D’s.

She told me that these 5 D’s were the key to a successful and happy life. If you can exercise them every day, there is nothing you can’t achieve.

And you know what, she was right. They are certainly a structure you can follow to help you make difficult decisions, achieve goals in life, get back on track when you stray and generally have a happy and fulfilled life.

Here are the magical 5 D’s for a successful, fulfilling and exciting life.

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Want to make the world a better place?

Look in the mirror.

I’m a child of the 80’s. Well born in the 70’s but did my growing up in the 80’s.
Rah-rah- skirts. Tie-dyed T-Shirts, Miss Helena on Romper room. Crimped hair. Danced in my lounge room to Lionel Richie, Kylie, Abba, Olivia Newton-John, The Pointer Sisters and Michael Jackson.

Oh how I loved Michael Jackson’s early music. Did you?

As I got older and outgrew my Barbie Doll’s I also outgrew Michael Jackson’s music. Shock Horror! Yes I know many of you held on to your love, but not I.
His later work just didn’t gel with me.

Except for 1 song – Man In The Mirror

These lyrics, particularly strike a chord.

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